My daughter’s middle name will stay the same (Anastasia), as will her first name, but so many other things about her life (and ours) changed yesterday when she got married.
I kept the middle name I had been given at birth (Elaine) rather than changing it to my maiden name (Rucker) when I got married. My middle name honors my mother’s best friend, Elaine, who I always called “Aunt Elaine.”
My husband and I love Tenley’s middle name. It was mainly his choice (because he loves Russian history). It’s such a pretty name, and a good conversation piece (as is her first name).
When I posted about their wedding last night, I “checked in” on Facebook at the reception venue and tagged her along with writing out her husband’s first name.
I thought about that today and realized I should have put her new last name after the name I had tagged on Facebook. I was in the process of editing the post when I realized she had already changed her Facebook name to her new married name.
Many women these days don’t change their name to that of their spouse. I changed mine. I knew she would change hers, but it’s still so representative of the passage of marriage to essentially “lose” the last name you had all your life.
Because her new last name is “Ward” and her middle initial is “A,” her new handle on Instagram is tenleyaward, and I like how it has “award” in it. I love wordplay … and I hope this new beginning feels as satisfying as an award.
Welcome to this week’s Five Minute Friday. Our instructions, via coordinator Kate Motaung: “Write for five minutes on the word of the week. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.” (But I can’t resist spell-checking, as you can imagine.)
Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.