“Make yourself at home”
My sister-in-law has a little magnet on the extra refrigerator in her laundry room that says “make yourself at home.” (I tried to grab a quick picture of it on Thanksgiving Day, but the picture turned out blurry, so no visuals — just trust me!)..
The reason I took that picture, though, was because that’s exactly how she makes us all feel. (And be assured this was a micro-gathering — two married couples — plenty of social distancing.)
I’ve been really struggling with my lack of domestic capabilities recently.
It’s a little difficult to put words to that struggle. Usually, I remind myself that I have other strengths — writing, advocacy, empathy, social engagement, etc. — and that we can’t all do everything.
And yet …
I did have someone come to clean the house, something that was one of the goals of downsizing — to have enough budget to have it professionally cleaned. That relationship with the cleaner is going to take work, though! I walked through the process with the company’s owner, essentially explaining that I am not great at directing housecleaners. She assured me the person would have a checklist; we discussed some specifics, such as making sure the baseboards were done since animal-owning families especially need that.
The person who showed up was very nice, but said, “What do you want me to do?” AS IF I KNEW! But we’ll get there — and it’s just another communications situation to work through.
But lacking much of a domestic bent, I’d be grateful to have some domesticity fairy clean and decorate all of this, then whip up some delectable treats for any company that shows up.
I love my new house (with its lower mortgage payment), but I need help making myself (and others) at home in my own home.
Welcome to this week’s Five Minute Friday. Our instructions, via creator Kate Motaung: “Write for five minutes on the word of the week. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.” (But I can’t resist spell checking, as you can imagine.)
Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.