It is important to understand one thing about my husband to understand the rest of this post. When I needed a date to the Huey Lewis and the News concert in 1987, after my original date backed out, my friend who offered to set us up warned me, “Wayne is an Abrupt Little Sh*t,” and I said, “oh, that’s okay, I need someone to go with [translation – I didn’t want to get stuck with the cost of the ticket!].”
Things didn’t look good when he showed up at my door, beer in hand. There was not going to be any old-fashioned chivalry here. After the concert date, we continued to spend time together. The friendship evolved into romance. Throughout our friendship, through the living together, my subsequent ending of the relationship and moving to New York, and our reunion/marriage, there has always been a huge contrast between Wayne’s relative refusal to gladhand just for the sake of gladhanding, and my almost deferential approach to most social interactions. Between his (relative) bravado and my (relative) lack of confidence. Between his assumption that his opinion matters (and is right, of course!) and mine that my opinion may not be that important in the long run and is probably wrong.
What is something I could learn from my spouse? A little more bravado, a little less deference.
Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.
JDaniel4's Mom says
Finding balance is so important! I love that you used random.org select this prompt.
You and your husband are a great example of people coming together and making a great fit even with differences. It's great you just wanted a companion to help with the cost of the ticket. Have you all been to any Huey Lewis reunion concerts since then? You've got to go back to where it all started!
Graceful Lady says
I love it Paula! Isn't it amazing how relationships evolve? Thank you so much for sharing a part of your relationship journey and here's to the Power of Love.
great post. i could stand to take on some of my husband's qualities too.
Kimberly at Rubber Chicken Madness says
I always love stories of how relationships began and then took a path other than what you were expecting.
I love all these uplifting posts I'm stumbling upon tonight. It's so great to read how you view your husband positively.I say this, because I have to admit, it's so easy to find the faults.
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My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we are still “evolving” and learning from each other. As we age, some of our qualities are becoming more pronounced…the good and the bad;-) Great post. Following from Super Stalker Sunday.
Mama on a Green Mission says
Thanks so much for stopping by and linking up to our Super Stalker Sunday hop! I'm now following you on GFC! I'd love for you to stop by my blog and follow if you aren't already! 🙂 Have a great weekend! Hope to see you again next week for the hop!
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Hi Paula! Thanks for linking up with the Super Stalker hop and for stopping by Kortney's Krazy Life!!
I love reading about how others fell in love or how their love has grown over the years! Love is so amazing isn't it!?
Have a great Saturday evening and have fun stalking around!! 🙂
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Your opinions are every bit as important as your husbands (even though he might think so!!) Stand up and be heard!!! She Came She Saw She Conquered!!
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Following you from the Sunday hop. Your story about how you met is awesome. Enjoy the rest of the weekend!
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That's interesting about the way your relationship went with your husband before you got married! Nice wedding pic of you two!
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Sisters 'N Cloth says
Yes, the relationship between my husband and me is almost opposite as well. It makes for some interesting times, that's for sure!
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Frugal in WV says
I could learn some things from my husband also, we've been married eight years 🙂 New follower from super stalker hop, have a great rest of your weekend!
This is cute! My most recent post is titled “Couples Who Fight In Public” and you guys sound like you don't fall into that category :).
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I loke your post. Very heart felt. I am following you from the hop. Please return the follow at http://thecryptocapersseries.blogspot.com
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I've always believed that you can learn something from everyone – great post! 🙂 Following you (LOVE the name!) – can't wait to read more 🙂
I really like your blog – I'm trying to get mine off the ground and was wondering if you could come check it out and consider following.
Hope you have an *amazing* day! 🙂
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