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Abrupt Little LOVE (A Mama Kat Writing Prompt)

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The Mama Kat prompt that I ended up with this week, thanks to the randomness of random.org is the best kind of writing prompt – one I have no clue how to address! It is number five: What is something you could stand to learn from your significant other?

It is important to understand one thing about my husband to understand the rest of this post. When I needed a date to the Huey Lewis and the News concert in 1987, after my original date backed out, my friend who offered to set us up warned me, “Wayne is an Abrupt Little Sh*t,” and I said, “oh, that’s okay, I need someone to go with [translation – I didn’t want to get stuck with the cost of the ticket!].”

Things didn’t look good when he showed up at my door, beer in hand. There was not going to be any old-fashioned chivalry here. After the concert date, we continued to spend time together. The friendship evolved into romance. Throughout our friendship, through the living together, my subsequent ending of the relationship and moving to New York, and our reunion/marriage, there has always been a huge contrast between Wayne’s relative refusal to gladhand just for the sake of gladhanding, and my almost deferential approach to most social interactions. Between his (relative) bravado and my (relative) lack of confidence. Between his assumption that his opinion matters (and is right, of course!) and mine that my opinion may not be that important in the long run and is probably wrong.

What is something I could learn from my spouse? A little more bravado, a little less deference.

Lessons I may learn yet through “The Power of Love.”

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  2. Angela says

    You and your husband are a great example of people coming together and making a great fit even with differences. It's great you just wanted a companion to help with the cost of the ticket. Have you all been to any Huey Lewis reunion concerts since then? You've got to go back to where it all started!

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  3. Graceful Lady says

    I love it Paula! Isn't it amazing how relationships evolve? Thank you so much for sharing a part of your relationship journey and here's to the Power of Love.

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  6. Sandra says

    I love all these uplifting posts I'm stumbling upon tonight. It's so great to read how you view your husband positively.I say this, because I have to admit, it's so easy to find the faults.

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  8. Frugalteacher says

    My husband and I have been married for 25 years and we are still “evolving” and learning from each other. As we age, some of our qualities are becoming more pronounced…the good and the bad;-) Great post. Following from Super Stalker Sunday.

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  10. Kortney says

    Hi Paula! Thanks for linking up with the Super Stalker hop and for stopping by Kortney's Krazy Life!!

    I love reading about how others fell in love or how their love has grown over the years! Love is so amazing isn't it!?

    Have a great Saturday evening and have fun stalking around!! 🙂

    Kortney
    Kortney's Krazy Life

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  13. Mariah says

    I'm stopping by from this week's Super Stalker Sunday hop! Thanks for participating! I hope you'll join us again next week and I hope you'll stop by and visit me if you haven't already! I was already following on GFC and Twitter so I'm a Networked Blogs follower now!
    Mariah, Formula Mom

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  14. Debbie says

    Following you from the Sunday hop. Your story about how you met is awesome. Enjoy the rest of the weekend!
    Debbie from nofiltermom.blogspot.com

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  23. GuitarTrump says

    I've always believed that you can learn something from everyone – great post! 🙂 Following you (LOVE the name!) – can't wait to read more 🙂

    I really like your blog – I'm trying to get mine off the ground and was wondering if you could come check it out and consider following.

    http://www.guitartrump.blogspot.com/

    Hope you have an *amazing* day! 🙂

    Alex

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