Five Minute Friday: INCLUDE

Five Minute Friday

Today’s prompt: INCLUDE

Today, at my work, I had written something summarizing another piece of information (it’s what I do at this job). The client asked for me to include a link to a different site that would help the reader understand more about the topic.

Don’t you want to be the hyperlink in others’ lives?

Okay, maybe it’s just me, so I’ll own it.

I want to be the hyperlink in others’ lives, the person who helps them think a bit more deeply about topics, talk more articulately about them, and (most of all) see other angles so as to be more accepting and open about the world.

I had hoped to write this post for Mother’s Day as a tribute to my mom, but we are going out of town so five minutes is it and she deserves so much more.

HOWEVER, she was the deepest hyperlink of all in my life.

We didn’t always see eye to eye, and it took me way too long to appreciate her selflessness, but it is only through her — through a girl who grew up deep in the country, in relatively bare bones accommodations, living off the land — the same girl who insisted on going to kindergarten at age 4 because she followed her sister to the bus and just demanded to go because she wanted to learn — that I can find the “deep” background that ultimately makes me who I am.

She deserved a different end to it all, for sure. I am grateful, though, that the way everything unfolded gave me time to sit with her and just “be” for about two months. I’m not sure how “deep” we went during those visits, but it was an important investment in each other before our hyperlink of life was deactivated.

Five Minute Friday

Welcome to this week’s Five Minute Friday. Our instructions, via creator Kate Motaung: “Write for five minutes on the word of the week. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.” (But I can’t resist spell checking, as you can imagine.)

This post was originally published on Medium as Five Minute Friday: INCLUDE.

Tell Me About Yourself, Mom

In his post, 10 Questions to Ask Your Mom or Grandma on Mother’s Day, Bob Tiede shared ten questions to help us get to know our moms better. I love the questions but feel shy to ask them of my mom, so I decided to answer them from my perspective; maybe my kids will be interested someday.

1. What are your favorite memories of times you spent with your Grandparents?

I don’t think I would have called them my favorite times when I was a kid, but in retrospect, all the times we spent on my Granny and Pa’s porch (my mom’s parents) shelling peas and just “visiting.”

2. What was your grade school like?  What do you remember about your favorite teacher?

I went to two. Roosevelt Roads Elementary (we were stationed in Puerto Rico in the Navy) for kindergarten through part of second grade, then W.E. Cherry Elementary School once we moved back to Orange Park.

Interviewing Mothers

Thank you to pinner Maria Norman for this picture.

I don’t remember disliking any teachers in elementary school. She wasn’t a teacher but (surprise!) I really loved the library, Mrs. Derbonne.

Interviewing Mothers

My friend and I shared a day visiting my childhood home and elementary school in January.

3. Who was your best friend? And what did the two of you like to do?

Easy peasy. Paula Young (now Jordan). We became friends because we both have the same first name. We ended up in different places for high school, but every visit we pick up precisely where we left off before.

What did we like to do? We were in band, we both enjoyed academics. Otherwise I would say “hanging out.”

She is deeply loyal, terrifically bright, and determined to serve her family and her business well (she does!). I love her.

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Paula and me in August 2016 in New Orleans

4. What kind of things did you do as a kid that got you into trouble at home or school?

For the most part, I was ridiculously compliant. RIDICULOUSLY. My most memorable transgressions:

  1. I didn’t clean my room enough (some things never change)
  2. I got pulled out of English class in the 10th grade and scolded for being too chatty with my cousin, Deneen. I was mortified; she was amused that I was mortified.
  3. There was the time I stole baby Jesus, though.

5. Growing up what did you want to be?

I think my rotation was similar to lots of kids (waitress, teacher, that type of thing). I was on a “missionary” kick for a while (and spent the summer after high school knocking on doors all over St. Lucie County hoping to save souls). But the one that comes closest to being a “regret” is not pursuing something medical.

6. Outside of the family, what was the very first job you had that you got paid for?

Babysitting was first, but the first one that made a huge impression, the one I still think about every day, was being a cashier at Spires IGA.

7. How did you meet Dad? How did he ask you to marry him?

Blind date! We went to the Huey Lewis and the News Concert, a setup arranged by our mutual friend Cherie who has declared herself out of the matchmaker business now that she had one success.

I broke up with him in 1989 and moved to NYC to “take my bite out of the big apple.” Over the almost-three years I was there, we progressively took the steps that led to us deciding to get married. I kept telling him I wasn’t ready. One time, when I had just gotten back to New York, I called him and said yes. He officially gave me my ring on the pier at Lake Butler.

8. What is the hardest thing that you ever had to do in your life?

Along with Dad and Aunt Mary, tell Grandma and Grandpa that Uncle Chuck had committed suicide.

9. What is the greatest compliment that you have ever received?

Someone who had been a little kid when I was a teenager working with the children’s choir at First Baptist friended me on Facebook YEARS LATER. It took me a bit to remember her (new last name, no longer four years old) but once my brain was engaged, she said “you made a difference.” I never knew.

10. What is one thing you still want to do that you have never done?  (What is still on your “Bucket List?”)

I still want to be fluent in Spanish. I am so disappointed in myself that I haven’t made more progress toward that. I want to get out of debt. Go to Europe.

Bonus Question:  If your Mom (Grandma) is a Follower of Jesus, ask:  Is there a story you can share about how you came to be a Follower of Jesus?

For me, my spiritual life has been an evolution from doing what I thought I should do spiritually, to doing what most brings me in Communion with the holy trinity. I am *thrilled* Tenley has a church relationship she loves and have enjoyed going to church with Wayne Kevin. No matter what denominations they choose, first and foremost I hope they make time every week to turn to something bigger about themselves.

Mixing it Up for Mother’s Day! (A KitchenAid #Giveaway)


On Easter Sunday, when we were at my sister-in-law’s house out of town, my daughter and my niece made an emergency run to a local dollar store to purchase a mixer, in order to save my key lime icebox cake, which relied on fresh whipped cream. (It turns out my sister-in-law’s mixer was out of commission.) You know how it is when you have your head set on creating a specific dessert a specific way? I could have added cool whip, but I just needed to do the homemade whipped cream. The dollar store mixer did the trick, but who knows it if will be sturdy enough to withstand many more uses? A KitchenAid mixer, however, should last for many Easters into the future! I’m taking part in a giveaway of one for Mother’s Day! Here are the details:

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Mother’s Day is May 11: Please Feed Your Mothers

I received a gift card for the purpose of this review. This post was made possible by Mom Spark Media. Thoughts are my own.

I have a few friends with brand new babies. Seeing these women fall in love with their babies is so sweet, to me.

Holding Hands With a Newborn Baby

Thanks to social media, I feel at times like I am on the journey with them. These filled-to-the-brim-with-potential babies can’t go out and buy their moms gifts for Mother’s Day yet, but those of us with teenagers can encourage a little pooling of allowance or job money to give mom a bit of “thanks for all you do” recognition, right? (And in the case of babies OR teens, there’s no reason that the other parent can’t pitch in as well!) I’ve learned to be direct about this kind of thing so if anyone wants any hints, here you go!


This Mother’s Day,, the nation’s largest dining deals site and trusted source connecting restaurants and diners nationwide, has handpicked delicious dining experiences and gift ideas for every budget and compiled them into an exclusive Mother’s Day Gift Guide. There’s even an added “What Mom Means To You” sweepstakes bonus! can help you choose just the right dining experience for your mom. (I’m pretty happy with anything that doesn’t end with me in the kitchen!)

For that “deluxe” Mother’s Day experience, here are a few ideas once the topic of “food” is settled:

Pair any Gift Card with one of these gift ideas for the ultimate dining experience and Mother’s Day treat:

The Blooming Role Model:

“Mom always taught us that beauty is all around us, and she is our favorite example.”

This is an orchid my mom grew and nurtured. She is that kind of caretaker with children AND with plants!

This is an orchid my mom grew and nurtured. She is that kind of caretaker with children AND with plants!

Vibrant blooms are the perfect way to say “Happy Mother’s Day” to your very special mom. Surprise mom with a whimsical bouquet of flowers and a Gift Card.

The Spa Lover:

“For the one who always pampers others, now is the time for mom to pamper herself!”

No, this is not someplace I have been. It's a stock photo. But I surely wouldn't mind! Hint Hint Hint!

No, this is not someplace I have been. It’s a stock photo. But I surely wouldn’t mind! Hint Hint Hint!

Help mom discover the serenity and relaxation she needs with a spa treatment, followed by lunch at a tasty new restaurant using her Gift Card.

The Wine Enthusiast:

“For the mom who deserves her own time out!”

Pair her favorite bottle of wine with a Gift Card! Treat mom to the ultimate Mom’s Night Out.

This mom loves "taking flight" with wine!

This mom loves “taking flight” with wine!

Make sure to check out Specials by for more Mother’s Day gift ideas or to create your own memorable gift for mom!

And there's more! Taking bloom now on Pinterest ....

And there’s more! Taking bloom now on Pinterest ….


In celebration of Mother’s Day, launched the “What Does Mom Mean To You?” Pinterest Sweepstakes being held Monday, April 28- Sunday, May 11.

Five (5) winners will be randomly selected to win a $500 Mom’s Night Out Package.

Sweepstakes Giveaway Details:  Click on this link.

One More "REEL-y" Great Idea!

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 I received a gift card for the purpose of this review. This post was made possible by Mom Spark Media. Thoughts are my own.