Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.
When I embarked on the #stylememarch challenge on March 1, I was hesitant. I DM’d Hilary Rushford, its creator and author of the bow ties and bettys blog, proposing that I was too middle-aged and my fashion budget was too strapped for me to participate. Hilary encouraged me to join, stressing the fact that the challenge was open to all ages, and that one of the main tenets was to do the challenge primarily with items we already owned.
I dove in on March 1 with “favorite color” day:
And rounded out the month on March 31 with “plays up your best feature” day:
It took a few plays on words and coaxing some rarely worn items out of the deep recesses of my closet, but I did the challenge every day except “hair braid day.” Here is the entire list:
Now that the challenge is over, I have a few observations by way of closure:
My earrings are in a conspiracy to remain separated from one another. It is almost impossible to find two matching earrings when said earrings would be perfect with an outfit. Ditto for earring backs. Yikes.
It is seriously difficult to take pictures of yourself. I don’t know how teenagers do it (and they seem to do it all the time!). This process resulted in a lot of outtakes. Like this:
On the bright side, though:
Twenty Pounds Later. Oh my gosh I have lost almost 20 pounds over the past year! I knew that (because I weigh myself every day) but I have really focused on my fitness goals and haven’t been fixated on the numbers so much. It really hit me when I grabbed items that I had not fit into in so long, put them on to see if they could be used for a particular day’s theme, and they fit!
and the “power of the belt” (read below).
Confidence. One of the most powerful moments in therapy for me (when I was in my 20’s) was a visualization where I looked at my (selfless, humble, incredible) mother as she carried herself and dressed, juxtaposed with the same wonderful person dressed confidently, carrying herself with a clear aura of “deservedness.” It is so easy to feel like you are helping everyone else by “going without” but the price is heavy. Our daughters don’t need mothers who constantly tamp down their own needs and sense of self in deference to everyone else in their lives.
Our daughters need mothers who (in Hilary’s words) approach each day with grace and gumption. Thank you, Hilary, for reminding me to take a second look at my closet as well as my psyche.
If you want to see pictures of me ad nauseum (ha ha), here are all of my #stylememarch posts:
Week One is here.
Week Two is here.
Week Three is here.
Week Four is here.
Week Five is here.
Here’s the entire month’s plan:
Here’s the entire month’s plan:
Thursday was “hair accessory” day. I didn’t go out and buy anything new; I don’t have a lot of “accessorizing” options for workday hair. But it was the perfect day to give an homage to the unsung hero of my active fitness life: the humble little “Effortless Beauty” headband.
and flowed* into yin yoga at Journeys in Yoga for Journeys’s fifth birthday party:
Monday was “layer over/under a dress” day and that was another one that I found pretty difficult. None of my dresses and separates really lent themselves to layering, so I went with this dress/sweater combo.
I’d like to thank my coworkers for getting in on the “#StyleMeMarch” fun:
It has been a lot of fun playing with these clothes and accessories, and rediscovering a few neglected items stuck in the dark hinterlands of my closet, but hands down the best part has been sharing the #StyleMeMarch fun with my coworkers. Thanks ladies for playing along – we may not have big budgets but that doesn’t mean we can’t have big hopes for looking great!
As a reminder, here’s each day’s theme:
But our dinner outing ended up necessitating a step up from my denim crop pants so I was able to slip into the sparkly green shirt I had packed.
On Sunday, I had a 4.5 hour drive ahead of me to return from Palm Coast to Tallahassee, so comfort was key. Good thing it was “cozy” day!
I bought these black pants last summer when Tenley were preparing to go to Guatemala and ended up wearing them home on the plane. Turns out they are good traveling pants. The shirt is made of a super soft cotton and carries great memories of my run last September on Roosevelt Island for Women for Women International.
This pillow in the room where I was sleeping would not be denied being featured for cozy day. Fluffy = Cozy.
I was pretty pleased with the end result (and it wasn’t 80’s blue!):
Next up: “So ‘my city'” day. Cue the Marching Chiefs for that one:
Week Two of the “#StyleMeMarch” challenge from Hilary Rushford of the Bow Ties and Bettys Style Blog is being hung up in the closet now.
As a reminder, here’s the breakdown of what each day’s theme is:
But this is the LBD…
For “stripes or dots” day on Friday, March 9, the first (but certainly not last) repeat item of the month appeared (the skirt I had worn on “Parisian Day”):
What on earth to do for “rock star” day on Saturday, March 10? I was participating in the Shamrock Scurry 5K that day, so I experimented with a St. Patrick’s Day themed “tattoo sleeve”:
But it was a pain and I didn’t want to run in it. So I tattooed (temporarily) something else:
Sunday saw me move from Ireland to France. It was “something borrowed” day and Tenley and I had an “Afternoon in Paris” women’s luncheon with my mother-in-law, so Tenley loaned me her Eiffel Tower necklace.
On “Parisian” day (March 3), I was stumped. Hilary encouraged sophisticated black and white, along with pearls. I didn’t really arrive at “sophisticated,” but I checked off black, white, and pearls. The salesperson at Coach complimented me on my skirt. Ooh la la!
For “bought on sale” day (March 4), that was a breeze since pretty much everything I own qualifies! I got this dress for $10 from Marshall’s. These things that hang off it are weird but once you wrap them around your waist and knot them, it works! I love the fact that I can wear navy, black, or gray shoes with the dress. And of course that green color surfaces again.
Even though we are encouraged not to buy anything new, “bold lipstick day” (March 5) necessitated a purchase. This “ruby” lipstick definitely ratchets things up. (Old color on top, ruby on bottom.)