Fathers Who “Didn’t Go” And Why I Am Grateful

June 15, 2014. Today is Father’s Day. Among my friends and family, there are many fathers. Three (my father-in-law, my dad, and my husband) are particularly central to my life.

In addition to Father’s Day, it is also the 85th birthday of my father-in-law, Wayne W. Kiger. Happy Birthday, Dad!

With Wayne Kevin after his football game (October 2010)

With Wayne Kevin after his football game (October 2010)

Happy Father’s Day to my dad, Seabie Rucker:

My dad, Seabie Rucker, with Wayne Kevin, My Mom (Letha), and Tenley. July 2013

My dad, Seabie Rucker, with Wayne Kevin, My Mom (Letha), and Tenley. July 2013

And last but not least, to my husband, Wayne:

Tenley, Me, Wayne, Wayne Kevin June 2013

Tenley, Me, Wayne, Wayne Kevin June 2013
Photo Credit: Royce Rolstad Photography

None of these three fathers would be typically described as “overtly demonstrative” or “wordy.” But the older I grow and the more life experience I acquire, I am increasingly growing to believe that unconditional love manifests itself in many ways, some of which are quieter and more subtle. It especially manifests itself by staying around and being, as did the dad in this reading (it’s quick and good – read it!), the kind of dad about whom a child can say “you didn’t go.”

Thank you, each one, for not going.

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Happy Father’s Day! (A Mama Kat Post)

This week, I chose to do Mama Kat prompt #3, list 10 things you’d would love to give your husband or Dad for Father’s Day. A list of what I would like to give him is probably the only thing I can afford this year anyway!

1. The Saleen Truck he wants.

The closest we have come is this valve cap covers he was given when he and Wayne Kevin visited a Saleen dealership a few years ago and took a test drive:

2. Time/Money to golf a lot more.
3. The trip to Europe he has always wanted to take on the Q.E. II (because he doesn’t like to fly).
4. The family trip across America in an RV that he wants to take.
5. Members of the family willing and enthusiastic to do #4 (it would take some convincing).
6. Resuming season tickets to FSU Football.
7. The conversation with his brother, Chuck, that I think every member of our family wishes they could have – the one where we tell him to hang in there – that he can’t possibly know how many people love him and want to help him fight his demons. To read about Chuck, click here.
8. An incredible outdoor kitchen, with a gorgeous walkway to a sparkling pool, surrounded by lush Florida-friendly landscaping.
9. An end to the interminable job-hunt process that started in August 2010. The continued support of great people who return calls, do what they say they do, and remain friends through thick and thin. A paycheck (obviously, please, sooner rather than later thankyouverymuch) but more than that, the reassurance that there’s some vocation out there that’s so exciting it makes waking up every morning an act that inflates the spirit. 
10. The gift of no more smoking. We want him around to get all the items on this list (and  more).


Wordless Wednesday

This sign just made me chuckle.
I guess graduates get only one “congratulation.”
And I really am curious about the details of getting $15 off the free dinner!
I will admit that one of the reasons we chose this particular Japanese steakhouse (on June 20) was the “Two dine for $29 after 9 p.m.” promotion.  When they said they weren’t running the promotion due to the holiday, I was the observant diner who asked, “what holiday is this?”
I am sure my husband, the father of my two children, appreciated my cluelessness on Father’s Day!