I am participating in the 31 Days of Free Writes October challenge. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.
Today’s prompt: Revise
I would like to revise the outcome of a decision I made about a Facebook friendship (the picture above is a sunrise I shared with the individual).
Last year, I shared a piece of information with a friend that she needed to know for her health (physical health, mental health). I can count the times I have been the messenger for this type of information on one hand — it was not undertaken lightly.
It was a difficult piece of information for my friend to receive, and it was not taken well. She did not unfriend me, but restricted my ability to see any activity on her Facebook feed.
Then I was offended/hurt (rightly or wrongly). In a pique (not sure if I spelled that right!) of “if you’re not going to share your Facebook life with me in full,” I’m just not going to play that game.
Then *I* unfriended *her*.
Now the situation around which I shared the information has come and gone, but my “unfriending” is (to me) pretty permanent.
I realize, though, that this points up the sheer crazy of our social media world.
What really matters is — and I haven’t seen her since “the conversation” — rather than words/pictures on a screen, could we talk face to face as friends again?
Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.
I have never unfriended anyone. But I have “hidden” a couple of people. Being on social media with people you know in “real life” can be like walking on eggs. Just speaking about my experience, I’ve discovered some things in (some) people I know that I just have well rather have never known about. I hope you can talk in “real life” again but it might be very, very difficult.
I hope we can too (talk in real life, w/o tension). I have to chalk this one up to “live and learn” I think. Thanks for your perspective.
So hard!
Yeah — I believe thinking through all this today has helped me realize I have to try (if I decide to) to repair things face to face. Obviously social media has presented some challenges for this friendship. Thanks for understanding.