It’s the first day of March and I a doing a “look back at 2014” post. Hmmm…..
It is a little late in the year for this, but I was attracted to these “5 Questions to Make the Most of 2015” and their accompanying quotes so I decided to give them a shot. Retrospection is never really out of style especially if it helps you improve.
When did I kick ass?
“Celebrate what you want to see more of.” – Tom Peters
If I kicked ass in 2014, it was either:
A cumulative set of small things (like honoring the soldiers of Camp Gordon Johnston almost every day, demonstrating accountability in my workouts, consistently using Charity Miles to earn money for causes I love via my workouts)
Successfully biting my tongue during my daily drives with my father in law. It has been a struggle to “be the adult” when being told how to drive, having my motives for working questioned, or being berated for taking the time to lure the cat in after he (again) left the door open accidentally.
However – you know who’s the real badass in this situation? He is. For dealing with the loss of his spouse of 55 years, for dealing with decades of debilitating chronic pain, for waiting interminable amounts of time for diagnostic tests to explain the latest health issue, for having zero control in a world where he is accustomed to being in charge.
When was I most alive?
“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman
Easy: the week I spent in El Salvador and the week I spent in NYC.
Also, any time I was on an FSU film set.
And when I was scared to death and completely out of my element auditioning for a musical (then when I took a lesson to try to at least improve the piece and redeem myself). It was still below par musically but clawing myself up from awful to mediocre felt very, very alive.
When was I bored?
“The opposite of happiness is not sadness, but boredom.” – Tim Ferriss
“Here’s a great definition of boredom: The absence of growth.”
I was bored at work. Therefore I left.
Note: At no time in almost 20 years was I ever bored with the cause of providing quality, affordable health care to children. I was bored with the way my responsibilities were playing out. I was feeling the itch to do more communications and incorporate social media into my work life. Neither of those were options. I have only written one blog post about why I left, and it’s not about boredom, but here it is.
Who were my teachers this year? Whom did I teach?
“You are the average of the five people with whom you spend the most time.” – Jim Rohn
I have actually had a placeholder to do an entire blog about this idea — I read about it previously in the blogs of one of the Lead Change Group Leading Voices.
The answer to the “five people” question is:
My husband, Wayne
My father-in-law, Wayne
My son, Wayne Kevin (do we see a theme here?)
The online community
My Toastmasters group
My husband has taught me to ask for things I don’t feel like I can get. My father-in-law has taught me to check and make sure the door is really closed so that cat doesn’t get out! My son has taught me that the people who seem the least observant are sometimes quite the opposite. My online community has taught me it is okay to ask for help. My Toastmasters group has taught me to tell my story with fewer double clutches. (A double clutch is when a word or phrase is repeated such as “She played basketball played basketball well.”)
Who have I taught? I enjoyed being a first-time mentor to a new Toastmasters member. Maybe some other lessons I have taught will come home to roost. We’ll see.
What mattered most?
“The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena…who spends himself on a worthy cause” – Theodore Roosevelt
Family. Always has, always will.
Do these questions pique your curiosity as they did mine? Give them a look and let me know what you think!
Wife of one, Mom of two, Friend of many. My pronouns are she/her/hers.