Lessons From Behind The Door

My daughter and I set out to replace a doorknob at her new apartment today. It was my first time ever replacing a doorknob (never too late to learn new things, right?) as well as hers.

Over the course of the past week, she had been beginning the process of replacing the doorknob but had some questions. Since I had planned to visit her today and help with some other tasks, we decided to tackle the doorknob as well. I arrived equipped with all sizes of allen wrenches (because we had figured out that one of the hurdles was those little tiny screws holding the cover plate on).

We set about removing the old doorknob. We were being all methodical about it, laying the pieces out in order as they came off (because I figured that might give us some insight into the process when we needed to install the new doorknob).

We were in the process of unscrewing the long screws which hold the whole mechanism together. One of us held the door; the other loosened the screws. Eventually, the door closed against the pressure of the screws being loosened and components started falling off as the screws were loosened. That didn’t seem like a problem.


Through a combination of funky creative allen wrench manipulation, prayers, screwdriver wedging actions, more prayers, and willing some law of physics into submission, the door finally opened (hallelujah!). It was time to tackle the new doorknob.

As we tried to make sense of the instructions for the new doorknob, we finally took advantage of the fact that it is 2015 and there are people out there like Leah of See Jane Drill who make videos like How to Install a Doorknob.

Thanks to See Jane Drill, the process went pretty smoothly once we took some deep breaths and followed the steps she gave.

The realization of the day which most spoke to me came when we realized we were trapped in her room. Our choices after that unlocked a few takeaways which could apply to life beyond a DIY task:

  • It is oh-so-easy to inadvertently segregate yourself from most of your options
  • Adversity will bring out your ability to manifest effective options you did not think existed
  • Humor brings much more lightness to an adverse situation than anger would

Lessons From Behind The Door

I guess we could have avoided this whole blogworthy experience by hiring a locksmith, but where’s the learning (or fun) in that? She won’t have to wait until she’s 50 to learn how to install a doorknob and I have to admit being a little proud to have figured it out too.

I am feeling courageous enough to tackle some of See Jane Drill’s 161 other videos.

See Jane Drill’s motto (which gives me flashbacks to Bob the Builder) is You Can Do This!

Mostly, I am proud to be parent to a young adult who is willing to learn alongside her mom, one who knows she can DO THIS!