Make yourself at home

Make yourself at home


“Make yourself at home”

My sister-in-law has a little magnet on the extra refrigerator in her laundry room that says “make yourself at home.” (I tried to grab a quick picture of it on Thanksgiving Day, but the picture turned out blurry, so no visuals — just trust me!)..

The reason I took that picture, though, was because that’s exactly how she makes us all feel. (And be assured this was a micro-gathering — two married couples — plenty of social distancing.)

I’ve been really struggling with my lack of domestic capabilities recently.

It’s a little difficult to put words to that struggle. Usually, I remind myself that I have other strengths — writing, advocacy, empathy, social engagement, etc. — and that we can’t all do everything.

And yet …

I did have someone come to clean the house, something that was one of the goals of downsizing — to have enough budget to have it professionally cleaned. That relationship with the cleaner is going to take work, though! I walked through the process with the company’s owner, essentially explaining that I am not great at directing housecleaners. She assured me the person would have a checklist; we discussed some specifics, such as making sure the baseboards were done since animal-owning families especially need that.

The person who showed up was very nice, but said, “What do you want me to do?” AS IF I KNEW! But we’ll get there — and it’s just another communications situation to work through.

But lacking much of a domestic bent, I’d be grateful to have some domesticity fairy clean and decorate all of this, then whip up some delectable treats for any company that shows up.

I love my new house (with its lower mortgage payment), but I need help making myself (and others) at home in my own home.

Make yourself at home

Welcome to this week’s Five Minute Friday. Our instructions, via creator Kate Motaung: “Write for five minutes on the word of the week. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.” (But I can’t resist spell checking, as you can imagine.) 

10 thoughts on “Make yourself at home

  1. Come on in and rest your feet,
    but I should tell you that
    before you plant your bum on seat,
    watch for Barb’s new cat.
    She’s kinda not too social,
    so sitting on her back
    will result in vocal
    and multi-clawed attack.
    Her best bud is a Labrador
    without a lick of sense,
    but he will break down a door
    to come to her defense,
    so maybe it might just be best
    to give the social call a rest.

  2. Paula, I appreciated your sense of humor. I agree that being grateful for our strengths and abilities requires intentionality in those seasons when the ability we seem to need the most is not one we possess. 🙂 Visiting from FMF. Blessings.

  3. Cleaning has never been my forte either! Having a cleaning expert come in weekly is a lifesaver – at least the basics get done regularly. That makes it a little easier to tackle stuff she can’t reach (she’s like 5′) and deeper projects now and then, too. It’s easier with an empty nest (though I miss the kids!!!) to keep it up at least a little.

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