Welcome to this week’s Five Minute Friday. Our instructions, via creator Kate Motaung: “Write for five minutes on the word of the week. This is meant to be a free write, which means: no editing, no over-thinking, no worrying about perfect grammar or punctuation.”
Today’s prompt: SILENCE
Do we ever get to the point that we overcome our tendency to silence when our mental wheels are flying and we actually do have something constructive to say?
I’m pretty familiar with all the research about introverts …. and the fact that we like to (need to?) process internally before speaking externally.
I don’t have any problem speaking spontaneously if given a topic. It’s one of the reasons I enjoyed Table Topics (2-minute impromptu speeches) at Toastmasters.
It’s when my rep is on the line, when I am being challenged for something I did or did not do, that I don’t speak up.
It’s probably why I like to write. It’s probably why I blog.
But silence in these situations does not equal power, sadly.
Contradicting most of what I wrote above (or maybe complementing it) is my constant filtering of how overly defensive I feel in any number of situations.
I will be silent instead of giving that defensiveness life or breath (except to people who know me really well, so thanks to you people with the patient ears and accepting psyches).
Silence is not weakness, exactly. It’s more of an atrophy of the impetus to take care of what we need to express. It’s like a drawbridge always stuck in the up position, keeping anything from crossing.
This post is part of the weekly Five Minute Friday linkup.